Great Expectations

So when the competition started we were as excited as our children. We started watching the students from other regions, their fighting strategies and such other things. Finally when the time came to sit as the coach, we realised we were completely lost! Because till date what we had done was just cheer up our children. During the fights, when the child was looking at us with great expectations, we were completely clueless!We could not tell the child anything about the technique of the game and how to make up for the lost points!

And that’s what set me thinking about the Triangle of School Sports: Parents, Students and Coaches. And whether the parents can play the roles of coaches effectively? I started asking some of my friends who were also parents of sportsmen and women. Most of them agreed to the fact that the parents were the Coaches in life for their children and the sports field was just a small part of this life, so it was natural to opt for being a coach to your own kid!Remember the Phogat sisters who have been coached in the beginning by their own father!And in real life there was no conflict between their coach at National level and their father.

Some of the coaches reminded me of the best athletes of prior generations who didn’t specialize until they reached the state level or National level at times. They didn’t play the same sport year round for half of their lives because their parents wanted them to concentrate on studies and their academic careers. Coaches agree to the fact that the best time to coach any kid is when they are young! Teaching them to love the sport and have respect for the sport is easier. But then you have to be ready for the interference of parents of such young kids.

A coach has the unique opportunity to be someone who knows and believes in you and it is this quality that can make a lifetime of difference. So as a coach of your own child you can always become over critical or prejudiced about your own child’s talents or attitude. It is this fact of human nature that makes the parent a bad coach for a child.

Some things to remember before becoming COACH of your own Children

So before we decide to take up the coaching job for our own children we need to think about our relationship with our children, their friends/teammates and other parents of the team. If in any way the relationships will get altered by our coaching roles, we should not switch the roles. In this way we would at least remain a faithful parent trying to inculcate the right attitude in our kid. We may not know the techniques of the game but we will teach them the right attitude to live up to the great expectations coaches have from their teams.